I am trying to understand my mind. Discussion is welcome, retaliation is not.
Scantily dressed girls and boys trying to attract. People say they are there just to have fun. They are right. Fun for them is the rush they get when they sell each other to the opposite sex.....mostly. Alcohol allows them to open themselves up. I don’t know what that means. Yes, I’ve seen some people interact in more intimate/uninhibited ways when they are under the influence of alcohol than what they would do if they weren’t drinking. I feel if you think there is nothing wrong with what you're doing, you should not need alcohol to catalyze your actions.
When people are sober or not in a club, they are mostly in the eyes of society. They are bound by eyes and rules that a human society follows. When they are in such a society, they can’t behave like animals. I don’t want to make this sound negative and judgemental. When a person wants to feel free, he or she tends to advocate animal instinct. This is what happens when they go to clubs. They get a sense of freedom when they are surrounded by people with similar mindsets and similar limits.
Someone says, “You are not going to be able to get a girl with a mindset against clubs and alcohol. You should try to fit in more.”
Now this person is not trying to insult me. He/she wants me to have the fun that they are being able to have with clubs and alcohol. The reason I want to say no to this person is because I feel these things are an illusion. They give you temporary happiness. The feelings that two people have for each other under the influence of alcohol don't necessarily last. At the club, a guy approaches a girl, explains his interest in her, gets shot down, doesn’t care, moves on and tries to find another girl. The girl moves to another guy. Isn’t this what animals do? I am not saying its wrong or bad. But if you engage in behavior like this, don’t you feel you are living a contradictory life when you are not in such a setting?
It is true that right now, I don’t have an inner urge to go to clubs and drink alcohol for some reason. I am not trying to fight myself when I present my reasoning against these things. Its just something I don’t “feel” for whatever reason. Not everything is under my control and so there’s a chance that, in the future this mindset might change. I hope it doesn’t happen.
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if u dont have the urge to go to clubs and do alcohol... then that's u. if u change to get a girl, u most likely wont end up liking that girl.
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I don't believe what Quietus said. Look at Anand and Sira they were able to have successful relationships without clubs and alcohol. Also Deven and Amanda. The whole premise that you can't find someone without partying, drinking alcohol, drugs, going to clubs is bogus. I see people trying to convince me too that is the only way. It is not. If that is truly the only way to meet someone I think I'd be much happier and at peace with myself if I was alone. Lucky it is not the only way. That being said it's still a hard endeavor meeting someone. Most things in life that mean something are not easy to come by. Whatever choices you make stay true to yourself man.
true...I think quietus is trying to make the same point as you anonymous. Point being, don't let popular notion change you. Stay true to what feels natural to you. Once it starts feeling artificial, its not worth it.
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